Category: Field Notes

Learning from nature, the ancient Taoists perceived two complementary impulses in the psyche, called yin and yang. The polar tension and interplay between these two impulses drives the cyclic process of creating, destroying and re-creating. 1 I have added this small paragraph after the initial posting as the events in the US took place after I had already uploaded the July Field Note (I won’t be adding this to the audio file as it would require me to re-do the whole file): I want to say something about the extreme experience of othering, namely, racism, that is very understandably provoking immense unrest in the US, and elsewhere. The death of George Floyd, a black man, by suffocation that was inflicted by a police person in Minneapolis is certainly an immense event of othering. Read Field Note

We are still in the midst of COVID isolation time. With the exception of folks who are essential workers, we are all advised, or in some places told, to stay home. I am “seeing” my counselling clients by phone, I go out for daily walks, and go to shops once in a while. Other than that, I am in semi-isolation with my wife, perched on the 11th floor of our apartment building. Read Field Note

The title of the field note that I had in mind for April was Process Engagement in the Relational Field, which would have had very different content from what I’m writing now. However, I think it’s fair to say that, in this field note, we are still looking at process engagement in the relational field: during this time, of the relationship between Covid-19 and us. I really didn’t want to write about the current pandemic, Covid-19, as there seems to be absolutely no shortage of information and advice. However, it occurred to me that what we are facing might well be construed as World War III (WWIII). Read Field Note

In this Field Note, I propose to reflect on love relationships: a challenge for most of us. My materials for this reflection come from five decades of working with clients in my psychotherapy practice, and my own life experiences. I will foreground this reflection with a theory that I have been developing about relationship. My Theory of Time and Distance in Relationship. Read Field Note

There is an abundance of talk, research, and writing about resilience these days. Many of us are running as fast as we can, and yet we still feel our energies waning and that our resilience is evaporating in reaction to a relentlessly stressful world. All manner of fatigue and exhaustion abound: workplace burnout, relationship troubles, work fatigue, emotion fatigue, and so on. I’m quite sure you can personally relate to fatigue, burnout, and many other varieties of self-dis-integration. Read Field Note

Over the decades (five, to be precise) of seeing clients in private practice and, of course, many people in public settings, I can say that the difficulties of letting go confound most people, regularly, and rather frequently. The difficulties are particularly pronounced when my clients see for themselves that it makes no sense for them to hang onto a person, a relationship, or a situation that is damaging or futile, or both. What is going on? Let me get at this conundrum this way: First, allow me to try out some explanations as to how being human works. Read Field Note

My doctoral thesis supervisor, the late Professor Carl Leggo, was a poet and a writer whose works touched countless students in schools along with many students of life. I was particularly fond of his writing style, amongst very many others, that he often titled “ruminations. ” These are short fragments, often no more than a few sentences, or a paragraph that capture the vital meanings in everyday occurrences that Professor Leggo encountered. In this Field Notes edition, I wish to curate a couple of fragments of my own (although my fragments are more like short tracts) that I generated over the past summer. Read Field Note

I had a dream: I am in some kind of war zone. I see there are a number of compartments of some kind. One of the enemy soldiers approaches with his rifle and bayonet and tears open one of the compartments. He goes inside. Read Field Note

Hello Everyone, I hope you are having a peaceful, insightful, and enjoyable summer. I have added a new feature to the Field Notes. Audio of the Notes will now be available starting with the July 1 Note. Please test it out here. Read Field Note

As I suggested in the June Field Note, High Dreams are about creative imagination – and its cultivation and nurturance. They are also about an increasingly clear view of what your Dream is, where you are in relation to your Dream, what obstacles need to be addressed, learning how to address these, including finding the value in them, and how to step further into the overall process. Beyond High Dreams and most central to the process is development of your High Dreamer self. I suggest to you that as a true High Dreamer you are in a process of becoming increasingly honest with yourself and the world, along with becoming increasingly clear about who can hear what, what is beneficial, and what requires different timing and/or careful wording. Read Field Note