Choosing and Not Choosing a Counsellor: Being a Counsellor Who is Chosen or Not-Chosen

Of course a reference from someone you know and trust is a very good starting point. However, if you are calling without such reference, or want to confirm…

Perception: Life Affirming and Life Eroding Experience

I prefer the terms, “life affirming and life eroding” to the usual terms of positive and negative about behaviors, feelings, and actions. These latter seem to me to…

Reframing

Reframing is a technique that evolved from Aaron T. Beck’s work with developing cognitive therapy. He talked about cognitive restructuring. It became a ‘handy’ tool for changing perceptions.…

Mindfulness and Awareness

The term mindfulness can be misleading, as it seems for some people to point to thinking which is equated with the mind. Mindfulness is a usual translation of…

Repression and Suppression

Repression and suppression are such a norm in our culture that these experiences are rarely noticed, let alone questioned. Each person has an internalized suppressor and a repressor.…

Relational Communication

Work with another person directly on the relationship between you and another. Invite the other to say what he or she senses/feels in the moment as the two…

About Theory

Theorizing is an attempt to make sense of one’s experience in the world, and do so in a way of “map-making”: that is, systematically, and with a view…

Non-ordinary consciousness (NOC)

NOC can be induced with the use of substances and techniques. There is ample evidence for this. What this “method” does not provide, however, is transformation of the…

Integration of Four Components

Integration of Four Components that make up pursuit of any art. The four components are: 1) passion, 2) talent, 3) skill, and 4) knowing what matters to you…

Working with Difficult Behaviors

The most crude approach in terms of working with behaviour is to try and change it immediately, to get rid of it, to conquer it, and/or to critique…